This isn't a callout, more a subtle problem I've seen in queer/t4t/lesbian spaces. They tend to really look down on people who are attracted to men, especially cishet men, because of their own personal baggage with specific cishet men.
I know for me, discovering my bisexuality was about unpacking compulsive queerness; being surrounded by mostly lesbian transfems does weird stuff to one's brain. Yes I am actually attracted to men. No that's not a bad thing and I shouldn't feel weird about it. I can be queer in a straight relationship and its honestly really validating (trans-wise) when it happens. Bi/Pan is just as valid a sexuality as lesbian/straight :heart_bi: :heart_pan:
@AnarchoCatgirlism in general I think the broader queer community can have an issue with anti maleness tbch. Like I am not going to act like there aren’t issues with masculinity in our society but folks can be incredibly aggressive with it. I get that people have trauma but I don’t think it is ever valid to just alienate people for things they don’t have power over. Like if a man isn’t shitty they are treated as a needle in the haystack or have their gender questioned. Personally I think that if we really think that gender is something that one can’t control then we need to stop judging people based on it and point to the things that are actually wrong.
@AnarchoCatgirlism honestly for me it's mostly that I just don't think at this point I am able to trust and open up to someone who lacks the understanding of my experiences and struggles. That mutual "yeah, I know" is something that feels very important to me, at least rn.
I don't mean that I look down on people dating men or cis men or whoever. I try not to. It's just a bit foreign to me and I can't relate to that :c
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